Dealing with low self-esteem in teenagers

November 2, 2016

Self-esteem is how a person feels about themselves and their contribution to others and to society, at large. Someone with positive self-esteem will generally approach things thinking they are a good person who deserves love and support and who can succeed in life. Someone with low or negative self-esteem will generally think they are not good at things and that they don’t deserve love or support.  They often think that whatever the situation, it will work out badly for them.

Whereas self-esteem is confidence and satisfaction in oneself, low self-esteem can destroy a person’s ability to think, feel or act in a positive way. A person with low self-esteem feels inadequate; they have the feeling that they cannot do the right thing, they don’t feel nearly as good as their friends or peers, and sometimes they do not feel the need to try because they believe they cannot succeed.

Teenagers tend to suffer a lot from low self-esteem. Teenagers with low self-esteem find it very hard to cope with pressures from school, peers, parents, and society. They can find it all very stressful- feeling they are expected to achieve good grades, look a certain way, and be successful or popular. It is necessary for these teenagers to form a habit of choosing the thoughts that they want to dwell upon. We are each the captains of our minds  with complete control over our thoughts. Continually practicing positive habits of thinking and acting eventually leads to a tipping point, where after, great success and achievement begin to happen in life.

When a child has low self-esteem, many parents search endlessly for ways to make them feel better about themselves. They complement their child for minor accomplishments or lower the standards to make them feel better and yet, nothing changes. Not knowing better, the parents want to fix the problem immediately, when in reality, they should be coaching their child on how they can overcome their issues by taking their thoughts captive.

People who are celebrated for their great achievements possess a winning attitude. It is, therefore, important that we learn to say positive words to our children, and in so doing, build them up. Positive words foster an abundant life; a huge difference is notable between children who have been affirmed by their parents and teachers, and, those who have not. Teenagers need to be taught not to look at obstacles that prohibit their progress as barriers, but instead look at them as challenges that will strengthen them each time they work through one- each challenge is a gift in disguise.

These teenagers have a lot going for them; it is therefore their responsibility to choose their destiny. Everything is in their favor if they make the choice to be positive and not let negative thoughts get the better of them.

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