The Right Direction

October 2018

From the Choice Club meetings that we have had with the various girls, it has become increasingly clear that unless the girls are affirmed and offered guidance in the right direction, they stand a very-likely chance of losing their sense of self-worth. Many of the girl’s main focus is trying to fit into a world that has increasingly become very cruel. We had a very sad incidence occur recently here where a young girl of 22 years was murdered. She was having an affair with an older married man who is a politician. The relationship has been going on for a while, but when the girl got pregnant, the story changed. She threatened to expose the man unless he took responsibility for the pregnancy which was now in its 7th month.  She asked that he support her financially. The man felt he could not risk having his reputation tarnished and tried to reason with the girl. She was not having any of it; they were not agreeing. The young woman summoned the media and was ready to reveal all the sordid details. On the day she was meeting the journalist who was going to record her story, she was abducted. Two days later, her body was discovered in a forest, someone had killed her and cut open her stomach. The news was on all the TV stations; the whole country was in shock and of course fingers pointed at the politician who denied the whole thing. A number of people including the politician have been arrested in connection with the murder, but the girl is dead and she is not coming back.

Love and acceptance, a good and easy life is what most of these girls want; they don’t think of the consequences of their actions, and those who do, simply don’t care. All they want is a good life. Becoming a responsible woman, a woman of influence, and a game changer is what I want for the girls we mentor. We know that most of them are struggling with the idea of loving others unconditionally because they feel they have never been loved that way. All these girls have a longing, we may not have all the answers to what is going on in their lives, yet we try to offer all that we can in the way of information and understanding.

We set the quiz below, for our next class

What are the five most important things in your life?

What stress points are you experiencing that you would like to avoid?

What one thing would you like to change about yourself?

What are your expectations as a teenager?

In what area of your life do you need advice?

Who would you consider your hero and why?

What would you like to grow up to be, do you think that dream is attainable?

The idea here is not to act shocked with the answers, even if we are. When longings are discussed, it’s important to provide a safe haven for honest answers.

We will be having this discussion with the girls at Shiners School this coming Saturday and are looking forward to hearing their answers.

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